Over the weekend, the newspapers were cluttered with discussions of consensual sex and rape. Now that we’re somewhere between the end of football season and the beginning of party season, it seems it’s the right time for young women to be sit down and given the annual pep talk on the innate monstrosity of the male species and that consent is simply a given after three in the morning. With rape allegations being hurled around in every direction, members of Australia’s beloved football culture have voiced some very interesting claims. Retired AFL star Peter Everitt took to Twitter to eloquently declare:
“Girls!! When will you learn! At 3am when you are blind drunk & you decide to go home with a guy ITS NOT FOR A CUP OF MILO!”
Whether or not we agree with Everitt’s logic, such widely held opinions indicate an unrelenting attitude towards men and sex. This is not the common argument that women deliberately dress provocatively and sough out such men, especially famed and rugged football stars. The argument is that women should be aware of every man’s brutal and predatory nature. Women are lectured to avoid putting themselves into vulnerable positions, sometimes of excessive inebriation or of simply being alone in a room full of men with a drink in her hand, in order to avoid falling victim to the helpless, vulturous instincts of half the population. It is entirely a woman’s duty to avoid being placed in such situations because, let’s face it, men will be men.
The idea of women being taught to fear men and to see sex as something to be fiercely defended rather than enjoyed or even pursued is rather gloomy. Young men should be educated just as much, if not more so than women on matters of sexual conduct, but the idea that all men are helpless brutes is deeply ingrained into our thinking. Such ideas are not only grossly derogatory to men, they grant justification for the very few who do behave in such ways, and this defence, sadly, seems to cross most cultural divides.
See also: Footy Gods
|Cartoon by Cathy Wilcox|
in the SMH over the weekend