“Cultivating whatever gave pleasure to my senses was always the chief business of my life; I never found any occupation more important. Feeling that I was born for the sex opposite of mine, I have always loved it and done all that I could to make myself loved by it.” – Casanova
Forgive my enforcement of stereotypes, but, being half Chilean, this article is inspired by the handsome guaperas in my family. According to the impassioned sermon delivered to me by one of my cousins last week, there is no greater thrill for a man than the sport of seducing women. In describing his various tactics and strategies – careful caresses, daring whispers and frothy promises – I could not help but become intrigued by the surprisingly intricate components of his game plan. “But you’re a good looking guy,” I interrupted, “surely all the time and effort isn’t necessary.” But, according to him, this is the best part. The notorious womaniser Giacomo Casanova explained that the ideal liaison offered elements beyond just sex, and was known for devising lengthy and complicated plots in his pursuit of women. The glorified labels of “womaniser,” “player” and “ladies’ man” extends beyond describing the man who simply cannot commit. These are supposedly great men - equipped with a specific set of skills and a relentlessly sturdy ambition. We love players. From the mythologised icon of Casanova to the irresistible creations of Don Juan, James Bond and Captain Kirk, these serial heartbreakers have charmed their way into the hearts of women for centuries, and despite being associated with elements of insecurity, immaturity and chronic dissatisfaction, it seems unlikely that the glamorisation of the womaniser will subside any time soon.